Books

The three top selling bdsm books for each subject listed below to help you in your search:

BDSM Books (instructional)

1. Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns: The Romance and Sexual Sorcery of Sadomasochism

2. SM 101: A Realistic Introduction

3. Jay Wiseman's Erotic Bondage Handbook

Dominance and Submission

1. Different Loving : A Complete Exploration of the World of Sexual Dominance and Submission

2. The Loving Dominant

3. The Art of Sensual Female Dominance: A Guide for Women

Interested in fictional books with a bdsm theme? Following are the most popular bdsm novels:

1. The Sleeping Beauty Novels

2. The Story of O

3. Carrie's Story

In conclusion: Use common sense. Learning safety and bdsm activity skills from books is encouraged but be sure to take it slow. Better to be cautious than injured. Regarding dominance and submission.....that is more personal . Books may inspire you and offer some ideas but keep in mind to make the experience your own. Reality trumps fiction any day.

Bound

Bound

Author: Sammie © Feb. 28, 2008

Used With Permission Of The Author(s)



Feel the pressure on your skin,
Of ropes so pleasantly digging in.
Can hardly move but that is fine,
Just know my dear that you are mine.

Pleasure Dance

Pleasure Dance

Author: Raven Shadowborne © 1999


Pleasure and pain intertwined
sadistic orchestration played upon my flesh
moans, gasps, screams
white hot fire
raging lava surges through my veins
body arching to meet each note
as you play them on my skin
masochistic lust satisfied
my body craves your touch
carsses, soft and gentle
warm hands massaging silken flesh
my body craves your pain
stinging slaps
burning scratches
animal lust takes over
I lay naked before you
vulnerable to your whims
trembling beneath your hands
begging for more
Lines between pleasure and pain blur
limits are no more
wanting to take all you offer
and more.

Kajira

Kajira

Author: Sabryna © 1997



this one came to you today.
her heart to give to you.
You asked, of her,
what it means to be kajira.
this one thought her heart would
stop,
as she tried to put into words
what it meant to her.

kajira...a slave she thought
to be owned by a Master.
To be and to have nothing
but, that which the Master
wishes you to be or to have.

Then, this one gazed into your
eyes and what she saw there made her
realize that to be a kajira
is so much more.

to this one it means to give
into your care her heart,
her soul, her love...
Putting this ones complete
trust In you.
Knowing without a doubt,
you will always do what
you feel is best for her.
Helping her to grow and
learn.
Knowing you will always
be kind, gentle and fair.
Even when discipline is
necessary.

this one wishes to serve you
with all her heart, mind and
soul.
to bring honor to you. to make
you proud to call this one,
mira kajira.

This one wishes to be
kajira.

male doms in movies

male doms and daddies also have rolemodels they can emulate:

A. Paul Muni in Scarface
B. Sean Connery as James Bond in many of the 007 films including Dr. No
C. Gert Frobe as Auric Goldfinger in Goldfinger
D. Christopher Lee as Dracula in the first three Hammer Dracula films including Dracula, Prince of Darkness
E. Marlon Brando as Don Corleone in The Godfather
F. Al Paccino as Michael Corleone in The Godfather, The Godfather Part II, and The Godfather Part III
G. Jimmy Cagney in Ragtime
H. Robert Deniro as Louis Cypher in Angel Heart
I. John Malkovich as the Vicomte de Valmont in Dangerous Liaisons


It's not the violence of these characters that interests me. Violence implies a loss of control and it's the control they display over their situations and themselves that I find fascinating. James Bond is unflappable even when facing certain death. Dracula doesn't need to open doors -- they open for him. Don Corleone doesn't raise his voice. When he has something to say, people listen.)

Some great femme fatales

Role Models on Film: You can find some great role models on videos and DVDs. Some great femme fatales include:

Bridgette Helm as the Robot in the "Whore of Babylon" scene in Metropolis
Lousie Brooks as Lulu in Pandora's Box
Ludmilla Tchérina as Giulietta walking down the stairs in the Venice scene of Michael Powell's The Tales of Hoffman
Julia Migenes-Johnson dancing, singing, and acting as Carmen in Carmen
Alice Krieg as Alma Mobley in Ghost Story. (Her beautiful eyes are like dark pools where something is hiding.)
Glen Close as the Marquise de Merteuil in Dangerous Liaisons
Alice Krieg as the Borg Queen in Star Trek: First Contact
Michelle Pfeiffer as the Catwoman in Batman Returns

Each of these femme fatales display the assertiness, confidence, wit, gentleness, sadism, overt sensuality, subtle sexuality, and control that are the outward traits of a great domme.

Thoughts about Dom(mes)

If we want to be we can be a very powerful wom(men) **grins evily**. We have the ability to take people on journeys into places they have not been, and make them feel things they have never felt. But those things- the places, the feelings-already exist within the person. I have the ability to see the potential, to direct the journey, to shape its path-but I do not create something in people that was never there before. Each one of you has something special inside you- I can unlock that and bring it out.

Welcome...I am glad you are here

Wether you are Novice or an experienced Submissive,

 there are things you should know about me MistrexShivah. I have been doing dominance and submission and D/s for ten years in my life, then I went into a long break, I am still on break. 

I am playing Gor, because some parts inside me are missing it alltogether.  I was a "lifestyle" Mistress at some point in my life, although personally I dont care for that term. 

Very often in GOR I am asked what is D/s?

What I do say is:  that this dynamic, this way of relating to another person, the magic that can be created- it is very close to my heart, it is at the center of who I am.To me this encompasses the mind, body and soul. Here in Gor as well in our lives.

There are many ways of being a dominant. But I think there are misconception in the world about how one must behave to be a Domme. I am not an angry person. I do not hate men, and want to punish them out of hatred. I do not think of the men or women who come to me to RP slaves as inferior to me by definition. I love slaves......and I cherish every moment with them.....

I value the men and women who give me their submission. It is a gift of trust- and I do not abuse it. The things I do, if I play Gor may be physically or physologically intense, but I respect each invidials's stated limits, and no matter what, I do not cause permanent damage to anyone.

But I have to admit...playing GOR isnt as easy as I thought it would be, while playing GOR very often I am busy dealing with problems that RP comes along and I have to answer questions about D/s relationships or slaves in general. In RP is so much more to consider than when people meet in realife. 

The main reason for my blog is: trying to make things easier on all of us....I truly believe its difficult for all of us to RP on a screen...and demanding and fullfilling the owners wishes as well to play by the rules of GOR.

I certainly dont know it all....I share the little I know with valuable references and hopefully it will be helpful to all of us.